Celebrating the life of

Mary Elizabeth Hewit Utzinger Roeder

Passed away on November 21, 2021

Mary Elizabeth Hewit Utzinger Roeder

Mary Elizabeth Hewit Utzinger Roeder, businesswoman and teacher, died Nov. 21, 2021, in Savannah, GA at the age of 100.

Born in Jersey City, NJ, Mary Betty intended to study drama after high school. However, she soon met Arthur Utzinger at a church dance, and married him in 1940. They had two sons during World War II, and a third shortly after.

As a working mother, she opened a preschool in Plainfield, applying her knowledge of early childhood growth and development. When Art died suddenly in 1962, she decided, with characteristic practicality, that a widow raising three children needed to make “a man's salary.” Her solution was to gain her real estate license.

In 1964 she met Kenneth Roeder, a Chatham widower with two teenage boys of his own, when he was a last-minute fill-in as “a fourth for bridge.” They married the following year.

She viewed melding their five boys into a single family as one of her finest accomplishments.

She often accompanied her husband on his work as a railroad consulting engineer, including stints in South Korea, Japan and Ghana. When they retired to New Hampshire, she opened a real estate business, and also served as a hospice volunteer.

After the death of her second husband, she moved to West Chester, PA. A natural performer, she was a longtime member of the Hershey's Mill Players, and regaled her fellow church congregants with her rendition of “Diamonds Are a Girl's Best Friend,” risqué lyrics and all. She preached the occasional sermon as well.

Mary Betty was, at her core, a teacher and entrepreneur. She liked nothing more than to learn a new skill and teach it to others, whether it was ballroom dancing to middle-schoolers in North Plainfield, line dancing to senior citizens, quilting, or “How to be a take-me-along wife.”

Those two traits combined when she lost her vision to macular degeneration and became a paid motivational speaker for the Macula Vision Research Foundation. She traveled throughout the country urging her audiences to stop dwelling on what they could no longer do and find a new way to do it instead. She also manned the foundation's crisis hotline. Her advice lives on in her YouTube videos.

She was predeceased by two brothers, Frank and Hardy, as well as her eldest son, David.

She is survived by Richard Utzinger (Karen), Savannah, GA; Thomas Utzinger, Warren, NJ; R. Kent Roeder (Kathleen), Sparta, NJ; and John Roeder (Clarice), Dacula, GA; Pat Utzinger, Dolylestown, PA, and Linda Utzinger, Mechanicsburg, PA; eight grandchildren, ten great-grandchildren, and two great-great-grandsons.

Services will be at Crescent Avenue Presbyterian Church, Plainfield, NJ., date and time to be announced. 

In her memory, donations may be made to United Church of Christ of East Goshen, PA, (




Mary Betty got a head start on eternity. She believed in really living. With eternity in her heart she will be delighted to return in the miracle of the resurrection. She traveled the world seeing everything possible ,so she could always enjoy her memories. When she returns in good health ,with 20 20 vision, she will be eternally thankful. John 5:28,29 Under Christ’s heavenly Kingdom government ,there will be no more pain, sickness or death. Rev 21:3,4 God’s will will be done on the earth ,as in heaven,; we pray, so the original purpose for paradise will be enjoyed., “Enjoy Life Forever”. Love and Prayers, Sandy Wirfs

- Sandy Wirfs, Monroe,, Louisiana

Services under the direction of:

Fox & Weeks Funeral Directors, Hodgson Chapel

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