Wish we could be there to give you hugs! All our love to Pat, Anna, Todd and John. Wishing you peace, from Dick and Cheryl Rice.

- Cheryl Rice, Lansing, MI

Pat and family, we are deeply saddened by Troy’s passing. I met Troy in Grand Blanc schools in the mid 70’s . We shared a common interest in chess and played on the school team. We continued our friendship after Troy moved to Lansing, in the early 80’s we moved west , Troy to Colorado and I to Arizona. Eventually Troy moved to Mesa Az and we shared a apartment . Troy loved to ride his Honda, we would fish the rivers here , and started our life’s journey, and shared so many laughs over the years of our life experiences. Troy was a loyal friend and I will miss his conversations, unique humor and text messages.

- Shiflett Family , Mesa, Az

Dear Troy, my brother, It’s hard to realize and digest that you’re gone. Our relationship went from my utter hero-worship of you and my need (to your very understandable annoyance) to follow you EVERYwhere, to normal and typically dramatic sibling rivalries and struggles, to a big separation of distance, then to a coming together after many years, when we found a calmer, gentler relationship, you making me realize, touching me deeply, how proud you were of me—to a time when I was able to realize and see that in spite of all the hard knocks life dealt you—sometimes because of (but not only) your personal demons—you stayed a good guy who had never become bitter. It seemed to me you always remained a sort of romantic at heart—a hard worker who never gave up your struggle; doing as best you could, even when I know you felt despair. And lost. Several times you told me with great pride that you were a true Graubner. I wasn’t completely sure what you meant by that, but when I think of the deep rural roots and profound work ethic of that part of the family, I understand how true that was: you were the salt of the earth, happiest fishing, gardening, cooking, taking care of your beloved dog, and then—cat?? (I never expected you to become a cat person!)—needing to connect to those simplest and most meaningful things in life. I know you took immense pride in your work and loved the contact with the seniors you cooked for, loved that you were doing something that brightened their days, and happy when you could create your own menus and recipes for them. It was in those moments when you shared those things with me—talking about cooking and having you explain to me how you liked to prepare certain foods, talking about your gardens, that I got you and felt I could connect with the true you, the part of you I think we all longed to be with, but which you couldn’t always summon because of the struggles you had, and the shadows that sometimes obscured that side of you. There’s so much more to write and think about and feel—and grieve. For now, I just hope that you’re sleeping peacefully. I love you, bro’

- Todd Camburn, Geneva , Switzerland

I am so sorry to hear about Troy. What a terrible surprise. It saddens me to think of his death at so young an age. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

- Theresa Malinowski, Paw paw, Michigan

Dear Todd, John, Pat, and Anna, Our thought and prayers are with you as you navigate this difficult time. Our hope is that your memories of Troy will embrace and uphold you as you move forward. Love, Val, Mike, and family

- Mike and Valerie (Wenson) Miller, Cleveland, Ohio

Dear Pat and family - sending you my deepest condolences for your loss... My thoughts and prayers are with you. Once during a grief briefing at the hospital a physician described death as a place like a stream...water trickling down...and somewhere down the stream we will all meet again ...sometime...someday... ❤️

- Man Yi , Pacific Grove, CA

Dear Pat & family, so sorry to hear of your loss. May God help you through this difficult time and help you heal. Deepest sympathies. ❤️ Susan Copeland

- Susan Copeland, Grand Ledge, MI

Dear Pat, Todd, Anna and John -- Rick and I send our love and wishes for peace and healing during this very sad time. Oh, to be able to give you hugs or to be able to undo things and make all right again. You are all in both our hearts.

- Jeanie Croope and Rick Oberle, Lansing, MI

So very sorry for the loss of this super guy. No parent should have to bury their child. God Bless to his loved ones.

- Harriet E Clauson, Lansing, MI

Too young, just too young. Our heartfelt condolences to Pat, Anna, Todd & John. Love, Claudia & Rafe

- Claudia Fiore & Rafe Dimmitt, Seattle, WA

So sorry to hear of your loss Pat. This year has been unusual, and trying on emotions. Losing a son is over thr top. I grieve with you, and know, I think of you often, as a friend, who helped me so much when I first started at Sparrow, and as a Travel companion. Take care.

- Karla Frenchi, Spingfield, Michigan

Pat - we were so sorry to hear of your loss, words cannot express how sad we are for you and Anna and Todd. Wishing you better healing and peace.

- Donna and Errol Green, Norwood, MA