Suggestions for coping with grief on Mother's Day
Tips for coping with grief on Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day can be a really challengin time for lots of people. It’s a day when we assume everyone is celebrating their mothers, but if your mother, stepmother, grandmother or maternal figure has died it can be really painful. It can also be incredibly difficult for anyone whose child has died or experienced other loss associated with children.
You or someone you love may need time, space and support to cope with a whole range of different and complex feelings. Each situation is unique and there is no right or wrong way to feel.
Put yourself first
Be kind to yourself. Don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do. Instead, spend the day doing things you enjoy. This could mean going for a long walk, spending the day watching your favourite films or taking yourself on a day trip.
Give yourself permission
Mother’s Day can stir up a wide range of emotions. The whole mix of feelings and thoughts we can have are valid. It's ok if you need to unplug from social media, silence your phone, spend the day quietly or even make plans to be out and have fun.
Give yourself permission to feel and respond in a way that’s right for you.
Find ways to express yourself and your grief
It can help to express grief in ways that feel natural to you. You might create art, listen to music or find another pleasant distraction. .There’s no right or wrong way to express grief. What matters is finding something that feels supportive and meaningful for you.
Remember your loved one
If you want to mark the day and remember your loved one, there are a few things you can do:
- Light a candle and place a photo next to it
- Share memories with friends and family
- Cook their favourite meal
- Visit a place that was special to them
- Watch a film or listen to music that they loved
- Make a donation in their memory
If you’re struggling with grief, it’s important to ask for help. You're not alone, and the people who love you can help.