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Celebrating the life of
Barbara Lachlison Cay
Passed away on October 18, 2018
Services under the direction of:
Fox & Weeks Funeral Directors, Hodgson Chapel
912-352-7200
  • Memorial Service
  • 11:00am - Thursday, October 25, 2018
  • Christ Church Episcopal on Johnson Square
  • 28 Bull Street (Map)
    Savannah, Georgia 31401

  • 912-236-2500

Our sincere and heartfelt condolences to the Cay family for the loss of your dear loved one. God keeps those who have fallen asleep in death in His memory because they are precious in his eyes “Psalm 147:3” and “John 5:28,29”

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I knew Bonnie when she first moved to Atlanta. I loved her immediately. She was so full of life, never met a stranger and always lit up a room. Not too long after the accident, she called me. I was stunned because I knew how badly she had been injured. She said, "I can move one finger, so I'm using it to dial up all my friends!" I got to see her when she came to Atlanta to visit her dear friend Penny and when I went to Savannah to visit friends and relatives. She never lost her sense of humor and her ability as a great story teller. She was still captivating to be around. I so admired that about her. She was a loving inspiration to all who met her. I send her love and prayers in heaven! I know she's keepin''em entertained up there!

Beth McKinnon, Macon , Georgia

I am so sorry that Bonnie is gone. I have many special memories of the times we had together when we were young and mostly care free. Unfortunately the care free part did not continue for her. She had character and perseverance through the years that everyone could admire. She was very special. May the Lord Bless and Keep her. She very earned her place in Heaven. You are in my prayers, Georgi

Georgi Keller Valentino, Jacksonville, Fl

I am sorry for your loss,death is never an easy thing to bear, but our God Jehovah has promised mankind a resurrection so we cI am sorry for your loss,death is never an easy thing to bear, but our God Jehovah has promised mankind a resurrection so we can see our love ones again. Please read this scripture at John 5:28,29 this scripture will give you strength. Again I am sorry for your loss.

Cooper, Savannah , Ga

Bonnie and I met in Trustee’s Garden shortly after we moved to Savannah in 1967. We were neighbors for five years. She was still in recovery mentally, physically and socially. Her life had been turned upside down and was terribly challenging. She suffered painful cramping in her left side and balancing challenges with her crutch, yet she persevered to get out and be part of the Savannah scene. We went many places together and it was scary at times when she would almost fall or did fall, especially on River Street. This did not faze her She unfailingly was undeterred . Eventually she wanted to drive a car. We studied a driving manuel together. While I was simply humoring her, never believing she could remember all the information, she passed the test. She was not a bit surprised!! Her beloved father provided lessons and a car with a handicap driving knob on the wheel. She was elated to have this measure of freedom. This, too was scary for her family and me, but she continued to improve with humor and an off quoted refrain, “Different strokes for different folks.” Next came the desire to relearn to play bridge.She missed a normal interaction with her old friends. Once again we set out to challenge her memory. This proved to be too difficult with all the nuances of the game. So Bonnie simply moved on to what she could do. She was a brave young woman who survived the loss of her youthful life and later the loss of her father who always had time for her and she had his ear.. Their weekly lunch together was a high point. Her family was always there for her. She knew that as she aged the present challengesi would become more difficult. Her life was truly admirable not to just survive but to live with a zest to enjoy her Savannah and a curiosity for the next event yet to happen. She was a life lesson gift for me .God does indeed provide.

Lee Forbes, Savannah, Ga

I had the honor and pleasure of singing and talking with Bonnie for over 5 years at Spanish Oaks. Her favorite song was Moon River. She was a very special person. I will cherish my time with her and her Caregiver. My Deepest Condolences. Dennis Smith

DENNIS SMITH, RICHMOND HILL, GA

Bonnie was a wonderful person. She was in my class of 1959 at Savannah Country Day School and was a lot of fun to be with. I can still remember taking her on my father's Chris Craft speedboat from Brady's Marina at Isle of Hope to Grove Point Plantation. My thoughts and prayers are with Bonnie and her family.

Pearce W. Hammond, Okatie, SC

How could I ever forget that smile? The smile and her face and her soul lives forever. My condolences to her family and her friends. The angels have received a beautiful friend.

Dale Fleck, Clovis, CA

My condolences to the Cay family for the loss of your dear loved one. During this most difficult time, may your hearts be comforted by Jehovah God's promise that "there is going to be a resurrection." (Acts 24:15) Therefore, we will see our loved ones again. During the days to come, may Mrs. Cay's sweet memories fill your hearts with joy and peace.

Tati Khan, Snellville, GA

Thinking of all of you. Wish I could be there for the service.I loved Bonnie!

Nina Ravenscroft Hill, Charlotte, NC

My condolences to the family. May you find comfort in the scripture at Revelation 21:4 where Jehovah God promises to do away with death forever. We look forward to this beautiful hope that is to come in the near future. For more information and encouragement please visit jw.org.

Niecy, jw.org,

Everyone loved Bonnie ...She was a bright spirit in this world and I am sure she will be the brightest star in the heavens. Bonnie led a wonderful life full of fun and travels..Always willing to help all the many friends she had.After her terrible accident in which she was a passenger in an automobile, Bonnie had a very long and rough road in front of her which she managed with the courage and grace rarely found among us mortals. She never lost heart and though very crippled she managed to do more for people than those of us who are not impaired at all. Bonnie had a spirit that nothing could stop. She lived a life as best she could... never gave up and I am sure she is dancing with the angels in heaven as I type, and as always she will be the most beautiful and will have stars in her crown.We are the ones who are mourning! I am sure she never looked back! Hope she has connected with my darling husband William who adored her as all of us did and do. I miss both of them so much! William always used to joke "when I'm not with the girl I love...I love the girl I'm with. Bonnie was like that as well. They were kindred spirits God Bless them both and all of the ones who have left before us!Love to you dear Bonnie.

Ginna Tison Pope, Atlanta, , Ga

Here it is

Coppedgej , Wadmalaw Island , SC

My sincere condolences to the family sorry for your loss, please read Isaiah chapter 25 verse 8. This scripture assures us that soon death will be done away with for good which will benefit all of us in the near future.

Kay F, Savannah, Ga

 

Family and friends of Bonnie Cay mourn the loss of a beloved sister, aunt, cousin, and friend.  Bonnie died peacefully on October 18, 2018 at Spanish Oaks Retreat in Savannah, Ga after a long illness.

The daughter of the late Barbara Hilton Cay and John Eugene Cay, Jr. Barbara Lachlison Cay was born on October 5, 1941 and was a lifelong resident of Savannah. She was a graduate of Savannah Country Day School, class of 1959.  Bonnie attended Mount Vernon College in Washington, DC and The Villa Mercedes in Florence, Italy. On her return to the US, she traveled and worked in Southern California before taking a job at Courts & Co. in Atlanta in the mid 1960s.

Critically injured in an automobile accident in 1965, she overcame monumental obstacles to lead a productive and meaningful life of courage, resilience, humor and grace.  For 53 years she remained steadfastly determined that her limitations would not define her life.

In the 1970s, Bonnie took a job at Savannah’s St. Joseph’s Hospital where she had been a patient for so long; and she became the longtime volunteer receptionist at Emmaus House, a program for feeding the hungry in Savannah, at Christ Episcopal Church.

It was a thrill to walk the streets of downtown Savannah with Bonnie, a seasoned ambassador in the historic district. Her devoted followers and fans would salute her along the way; bankers, office workers, shopkeepers and street sweepers.  Beloved by all, she knew no strangers and they were always there to help her across the cobbled streets and share the news of the day.  Her friend, Dr. Peter Scardino, Sr. used to tell her, “Bonnie, you are the generous spirit of Savannah”.

Bonnie is survived by her two sisters, Caroline Cay Powell of Savannah and Elizabeth Cay Hines of Atlanta, her brother, John E. Cay, III of Savannah (Billings), eight nieces and nephews, Bonnie Bedenbaugh (Eric), Jack Cay (Erin), Christopher Cay (Emily), Catherine Dreese, (James), Dawson Long (Grace), Robert Long, Hilton Ball (Butler), Anne Wilson (Terrell), her sister-in-law, Mimi Daniel Cay, and Mary Polite, her loving friend and caregiver of 25 years.

The family wishes to thank the caring staff at Spanish Oaks Retreat and Hospice for their love and devotion to Bonnie for the 5 years she was a resident.

A Memorial Service will be held at Christ Episcopal Church, 28 Bull Street, Savannah at 11:00 AM on Thursday, October 25. Friends are invited to a reception following the service at The Oglethorpe Club, 450 Bull Street.

The family asks that Memorial gifts be directed to Christ Episcopal Church, 18 Abercorn Street, Savannah, Ga. 31401.

 

 

 

 

 

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Our sincere and heartfelt condolences to the Cay family for the loss of your dear loved one. God keeps those who have fallen asleep in death in His memory because they are precious in his eyes “Psalm 147:3” and “John 5:28,29”

, ,

I knew Bonnie when she first moved to Atlanta. I loved her immediately. She was so full of life, never met a stranger and always lit up a room. Not too long after the accident, she called me. I was stunned because I knew how badly she had been injured. She said, "I can move one finger, so I'm using it to dial up all my friends!" I got to see her when she came to Atlanta to visit her dear friend Penny and when I went to Savannah to visit friends and relatives. She never lost her sense of humor and her ability as a great story teller. She was still captivating to be around. I so admired that about her. She was a loving inspiration to all who met her. I send her love and prayers in heaven! I know she's keepin''em entertained up there!

Beth McKinnon, Macon , Georgia

I am so sorry that Bonnie is gone. I have many special memories of the times we had together when we were young and mostly care free. Unfortunately the care free part did not continue for her. She had character and perseverance through the years that everyone could admire. She was very special. May the Lord Bless and Keep her. She very earned her place in Heaven. You are in my prayers, Georgi

Georgi Keller Valentino, Jacksonville, Fl

I am sorry for your loss,death is never an easy thing to bear, but our God Jehovah has promised mankind a resurrection so we cI am sorry for your loss,death is never an easy thing to bear, but our God Jehovah has promised mankind a resurrection so we can see our love ones again. Please read this scripture at John 5:28,29 this scripture will give you strength. Again I am sorry for your loss.

Cooper, Savannah , Ga

Bonnie and I met in Trustee’s Garden shortly after we moved to Savannah in 1967. We were neighbors for five years. She was still in recovery mentally, physically and socially. Her life had been turned upside down and was terribly challenging. She suffered painful cramping in her left side and balancing challenges with her crutch, yet she persevered to get out and be part of the Savannah scene. We went many places together and it was scary at times when she would almost fall or did fall, especially on River Street. This did not faze her She unfailingly was undeterred . Eventually she wanted to drive a car. We studied a driving manuel together. While I was simply humoring her, never believing she could remember all the information, she passed the test. She was not a bit surprised!! Her beloved father provided lessons and a car with a handicap driving knob on the wheel. She was elated to have this measure of freedom. This, too was scary for her family and me, but she continued to improve with humor and an off quoted refrain, “Different strokes for different folks.” Next came the desire to relearn to play bridge.She missed a normal interaction with her old friends. Once again we set out to challenge her memory. This proved to be too difficult with all the nuances of the game. So Bonnie simply moved on to what she could do. She was a brave young woman who survived the loss of her youthful life and later the loss of her father who always had time for her and she had his ear.. Their weekly lunch together was a high point. Her family was always there for her. She knew that as she aged the present challengesi would become more difficult. Her life was truly admirable not to just survive but to live with a zest to enjoy her Savannah and a curiosity for the next event yet to happen. She was a life lesson gift for me .God does indeed provide.

Lee Forbes, Savannah, Ga

Candle tribute lit by Cora Bett Thomas — Georgia

I had the honor and pleasure of singing and talking with Bonnie for over 5 years at Spanish Oaks. Her favorite song was Moon River. She was a very special person. I will cherish my time with her and her Caregiver. My Deepest Condolences. Dennis Smith

DENNIS SMITH, RICHMOND HILL, GA

Bonnie was a wonderful person. She was in my class of 1959 at Savannah Country Day School and was a lot of fun to be with. I can still remember taking her on my father's Chris Craft speedboat from Brady's Marina at Isle of Hope to Grove Point Plantation. My thoughts and prayers are with Bonnie and her family.

Pearce W. Hammond, Okatie, SC

How could I ever forget that smile? The smile and her face and her soul lives forever. My condolences to her family and her friends. The angels have received a beautiful friend.

Dale Fleck, Clovis, CA

My condolences to the Cay family for the loss of your dear loved one. During this most difficult time, may your hearts be comforted by Jehovah God's promise that "there is going to be a resurrection." (Acts 24:15) Therefore, we will see our loved ones again. During the days to come, may Mrs. Cay's sweet memories fill your hearts with joy and peace.

Tati Khan, Snellville, GA

Thinking of all of you. Wish I could be there for the service.I loved Bonnie!

Nina Ravenscroft Hill, Charlotte, NC

My condolences to the family. May you find comfort in the scripture at Revelation 21:4 where Jehovah God promises to do away with death forever. We look forward to this beautiful hope that is to come in the near future. For more information and encouragement please visit jw.org.

Niecy, jw.org,

Everyone loved Bonnie ...She was a bright spirit in this world and I am sure she will be the brightest star in the heavens. Bonnie led a wonderful life full of fun and travels..Always willing to help all the many friends she had.After her terrible accident in which she was a passenger in an automobile, Bonnie had a very long and rough road in front of her which she managed with the courage and grace rarely found among us mortals. She never lost heart and though very crippled she managed to do more for people than those of us who are not impaired at all. Bonnie had a spirit that nothing could stop. She lived a life as best she could... never gave up and I am sure she is dancing with the angels in heaven as I type, and as always she will be the most beautiful and will have stars in her crown.We are the ones who are mourning! I am sure she never looked back! Hope she has connected with my darling husband William who adored her as all of us did and do. I miss both of them so much! William always used to joke "when I'm not with the girl I love...I love the girl I'm with. Bonnie was like that as well. They were kindred spirits God Bless them both and all of the ones who have left before us!Love to you dear Bonnie.

Ginna Tison Pope, Atlanta, , Ga

Here it is

Coppedgej , Wadmalaw Island , SC

My sincere condolences to the family sorry for your loss, please read Isaiah chapter 25 verse 8. This scripture assures us that soon death will be done away with for good which will benefit all of us in the near future.

Kay F, Savannah, Ga


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